Hi. I was thinking about this a while ago and I just figured I’d put it on here to be able to really sample a good number of opinions. Especially from the guys! (Please make sure you vote in the poll at the end of this post.)
So the thing is, you know how as young girls, most of us grew up with this notion that you shouldn’t give in to a guy’s advances too early because it might make you seem ‘cheap’, ‘easy’ or ’loose’. That’s why when a guy walks up to a girl for the very first time and asks for her number, she goes like, “I’m sorry I don’t give out my contact to strangers”, walking away but earnestly hoping she runs into him again. It’s the same reason why you’d ask a girl out after months of ‘friendship’ and she still says, “Let me think about it.” When in reality, it’s all she has thought about since she first saw you.
I remember being told about how guys love the thrill of a good chase and when you finally say ‘yes’, he’ll value you a lot more in the relationship. The one that even made me buy into the whole idea then was that it could help you avoid the ’playboys’ and their unnecessary evils. Like separating the wheat from the chaff sort of and it seemed like a solid foolproof plan at that time. But now, I’m not so sure.
I’ve seen a good number of ladies lose out on great love prospects just because they were busy ‘playing hard to get.’ On the flip side, I’ve seen ‘good girls’ fall into the hands of terrible men even after subjecting them to several months of ‘wait’. And while I’ve had some of my guy friends tell me how excited and ‘gingered’ they get when they meet a girl who’s ‘playing hard to get’, I’ve also met a few who tap out the split second they sense any form of red light from the girl.
Now the real question is this, ‘Guys, does the length of time it takes a girl to say ‘yes’ to you affect how you see her and the relationship eventually?’
Please I’d really like to hear your opinions, so drop your comments and also don’t forget to vote in the poll.